How to Control Anger

Anger is a form of a sudden emotion where the person gets upset, irritated or frustrated due to the behavior of another person or due to an unfavourable situation. When a person becomes angry, the body releases stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. 

To control our Anger, we need to understand that there are people born and brought up in different location, culture, circumstances, situations, religion etc. We should accept people the way they are. We can only guide them on what we think is right. We can't expect them to follow our thought process always. They would continue to do things based on their life experiences and the conditioning of their mind. 

We need to understand that we have a greater role to play in this material world. We need to look after ourself, our family and the society. So when we have a larger responsibility on our shoulders, why should we think of small petty issues that derail our  larger purpose in our life? Let us forgive, forget, wish the best to everyone and continue with the great work that we are doing.

If we involve in practices like Pranayama, Meditation on a daily basis then it reduces negative feelings like Anger to a large extent.

You may ask how these techniques would help to reduce Anger. Well, to explain that we must understand that there is a connection between our mind and our breath. When we get angry, scared or upset, we see that our breathing becomes very fast. Our heart rate and the body temperature starts increasing. On the other hand when we are in a relaxed state, we see that our breathing is very slow and deep. So to make ourself relaxed irrespective of the situation, deep breathing is essential. You may have also heard of people advicing you to take deep breath before an important meeting or before you deliver a speech. Meditation on the other hand helps you to relax yourself and to reduce the flow of unwanted thoughts. When the number of thoughts reduces, then you come at peace with yourself. You become more aware of your actions and emotions. 

Another thing we can do is Mind control or Mindfulness. We can watch our emotions on a daily basis and note down those situations when we lost our mind control and became angry. Identify the reasons why those situations made us angry. Is it because somebody spoke ill of us? Is there any ego involved during that situation? Keep asking yourself the questions and you would see that you get many reasons for your emotional outbreak. Once you collect these reasons, conduct a small exercise by sitting in front of the mirror and visualizing these reasons. Say to your self that these reasons are not part of your natural self. You are more powerful and happy than these minor reasons. Keep repeating these thoughts and slowly you would see the intensity of these negative reasons diminishing. 

Another important thing that needs to be done is that, we need to practice self love, gratitude, forgiveness regularly. These help to control anger in a big way. We need to be thankful of all the great things that we have been blessed with in our life. Competing with others is fine but we need to take this in the right spirit for the betterment of our self and to set the right example for others. Diverting our mind into some interesting activity is also another way of giving a break to our self and thereby control our Anger. 

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