Self-talk are the words or statements that you say to your inner self.
This can also be termed as your inner voice. Many times we come across
ourselves or the people around us using self-talk. This can happen consciously
or even subconsciously. Let us look at some ways by which we can use self-talk
and its impact on generating results in our daily life.
Self-talk has a deeper connection to our conscious and
our subconscious mind. Each word that we say to ourselves can have an impact on
our belief system and could play an important role to alter the outcome of the
events that we see in our life. Maybe for once or twice, it may not have a
strong impact. But when it gets repeated over a period of time, let us say for
months or years, then it creates a strong mental impression that makes it an
in-built habit or behavior.
Some of the common negative self-talk words used are
(Sorry for the vulgarity) :
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Oh no!
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Come on!
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Oh shit!
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Bloody...
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Wtf
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Stupid
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Fool
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Idiot
Regular use of these negative words brings down the
spirit of the person. It is like demoralizing or devaluing the greatness of the
person to a low level.
During my childhood when I go to play cricket after a
gap of many months, I see that on the first day I perform very well with the
bat and the ball. I would be getting good scores and would be getting good
appreciation from my teammates. Subsequently, on the second, third, fourth, and
final days, my performance starts to dip slowly. I would end up losing my form
and also struggle to play a normal game. I also experienced a similar kind of
scenario when I play football after a gap of many months. During those days I
didn't know the reason for such a dip in my performance in the subsequent days.
Many years later, when I gained the knowledge of
motivation, inspiration, and Self-Love, I tried to rewind my memory back to
those days to analyze what could have gone wrong. During those gap of many
months, my mind used to wait for those vacation days and wished to play a game
of cricket or football. In my mind, I used to imagine striking the cricket ball
comfortably. I also used to imagine tackling many players and scoring a goal in
a football match. After all this positive mind training, when I then get
a chance to finally enter the ground, I see that my mind is fresh with all the
confidence. I see that without much delay I begin to perform as brilliantly as
I should be. Later as I continue with my game, there comes certain situations
in the game when I make silly mistakes like missing a strike or getting out to
a simple delivery. When I make such a silly mistake, I criticize myself by
shouting at myself. Doing this action repeatedly whenever I make a mistake demoralizes
and devalues my spirit. The energy within my internal self goes down and so in
the subsequent games I start performing poorly. Over the years this habit of
criticism remained in me and affected my performance in my activities.
We must understand that feedback is essential for the
progress of an individual. However, criticism and especially self-criticism can
be avoided under all circumstances. We must understand that even if we make a
mistake or lose out on an opportunity, there are many other opportunities that
lie in front of us. If we believe in our abilities then we should believe that
we have the capability to achieve our desires and goals anytime later. The situation of others criticizing us would not
completely be in our hands to get controlled. However, we have complete control
of our inner feelings, thoughts, and emotions that we have towards ourselves.
Ensuring that we maintain positive self-talk towards ourselves would increase
our trust, confidence, belief, and self-love within us and help us in giving
our best under all circumstances.
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